Many people in our community experience disappointment, sadness, and anger when faced with other people’s opinions on their decision to have WLS. Unfortunately some find that people who matter the most to them don’t really share the same excitement about the news. These moments can easily be interpreted into thoughts, emotions, actions that serve no purpose to them, their journey, and their relationships.
The choice to have Weight Loss Surgery in of itself is a life-changing decision. From the Pre- Op stage to the Post-Op stage, there are so many things you need to do. Appointments, adjusting your lifestyle, dealing with a wide range of emotions, and dealing with inner battles that start coming up to the surface, to name a few… The last thing you need and want is to deal with other people’s negative feedback, ignorant comments that feel like added stress.
In a perfect world, you would want a fantastic support system, where people are happy and excited with you. However, that’s not the reality for everyone.
If this is what you’re experiencing, then you’re in the right place. I will free you from all the unnecessary emotional rollercoaster that other People’s Opinions may have caused you. It is possible to feel more in control and have a more peaceful, less resentful journey. You can love everyone in your life whether they agree or disagree with your decision.
Their opinions about your weight loss surgery have nothing to do with you and everything to do with them, their past, their judgments, their preference, their expectations, their likes, and their dislikes.
When I come across clients who are struggling with all the unwanted adverse reactions and feedback they are getting from friends and family members, I always like to remind them that. Everyone’s and anyone’s opinions on your decision to have Weight Loss Surgery have nothing to do with you and everything to do with them, their past, their judgments, their preference, their expectations, their likes, and their dislikes.
When some of my clients first hear this, it takes them a while to wrap their minds around it, but when you think about it, logically, it’s absolutely true.
Just because someone doesn’t agree with the idea of Weight-loss Surgery it doesn’t mean anything about you and/or your decision. It doesn’t mean anything about the relationship that you have with this person.
Let’s say that someone you love dearly decided to go vegan. This person is expressing their excitement about their new lifestyle, telling you all the benefits of being a vegan and ask you if you’re interested. You, on the other hand, don’t care for the lifestyle and you tell them no thanks.
Now the reason you passed on the offer had nothing to do with this person. It has to do with your preference, and no matter how much this love one will try to convince you to become vegan, you probably wouldn’t agree or care to.
It doesn’t make this person’s idea of becoming a vegan less significant or discredit what it means to them. You just have your own points of views, which are equally valid as well.
Isn’t it amazing that we live in a world where you can like what you like?
Agree or disagree with what you want according to your own values and preference.
That’s what makes the world such a dynamic and exciting place to be.
If you are having trouble with taking opposing views on your decision, I want you to remember that people have a right to think whatever they want. It had nothing to do with you and all to do with them. You have the option and freedom to agree or disagree with anything. At the end of the day, you get to make the final decisions when it comes to your life, and there is nothing anyone can do about it!
So the one thing you can do is Allow Humans to be Human and have their opinions.
There is nothing that you can do to control people opinions even though we try
However; the best news ever is that its none of your business. It has nothing to do with you and you can still do anything you want and no one can stop you .
If you still find this concept challenging or are struggling with any area of your weight surgery journey, it’s okay. Consider booking a 30-minute free consultation call where I can help you find the answer to any of your problems.
I only offer 3 free consultations calls a month, so don’t wait to long.
Your Life Coach & Sleeve Sister